Will the REAL Man’s Man please stand up?
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A weekly column in which NiK! takes the stand to rant/rave about anything & everything that's going wrONg in KL right now from a male-chauvinistic pig's point-of-view. Highly recommended therapy by the Malaysian Royal Faculty of Psychotherapy.
Just got back from a talk cock session with some of me investment banker mates.
After the usual how-do-you-do’s, stock market bullshit, and filling our guts full with dine and drink; we got around to talking cock as usual. From wide-ranging topics as how-was-your-Christmas/New Year’s celebrations to who’s going out with who currently (or to put it more bluntly, who’s fcuking who); we arrived to a topic which is just downright gut-wrenchingly sorrowful to my manly man heart:
Modern KL men being cuckolded by their current woman in their life.
What’s up with the modern KL men these days lah???
Over the course of Nescafe ais and smokes, I heard recounting of tales so sorrowful, that I can’t help but feel sorry for these modern males being controlled by their ever-so-possessive significant other. From stories of being publicly berated over nothing (well, these women would say they “imagined” there was something going on of course) , to shouting matches that would shrink the balls of any grown men, to dirty deceitful tricks of masquerading as an anonymous SMS admirer (just to see if her husband was faithful), or even checking up on their men via reading e-mails / hand phone txt message archives.
Why do these few modern KL women bring themselves down to this level anyway?
And why do their men ALLOW themselves to be treated so badly in the first place??
C’monlah sayang…..this is the millennium-lah. Do you realize there’s MORE women in the world right now than there are men? (I reckon most women realize this tidbit of info more then men, hence the controlling streak in a few of them). YET your men still decides to stay by your side willingly. Not because he hasn’t found a better substitute yet. But because he must well and truly love you for who you are. Therefore why treat these honest/player-turned-reformed men so badly?
I guess the irony of it all is that ALL of the guys we were talking about during our talk cock session aren’t necessarily socially-inept. Nor physically challenged in the looks-department either. Most of them are in fact “ex-playas/ladykillers/heartbreakers”, and have been known to break a few hearts or cause a scandal or two in the past: whereupon just a mention of their names in KL clubland would have inspired awe in men who dream to be them, or hate/censure from women who’ve been “played” in the past or have heard of stories from friend of a friend who’s had it happen to them.
Wake up and smell the kopi-lah, oh-ex-player-turned-reformed males!!!
You don’t have to take this kinda sh1t lying down. And it’s not as if you LACK the skills to find a better mate in the first place?! You used to be the man’s man in the oh-not-so-distant past! It’s not that I disapprove of your current choice of partner or hate her in anyway. Or jealous of your newfound happiness in any way (hence the less time you spend with us doing guy things). Really I’m not. I’m happy that your life is more stable now with a dedicated woman in your life. I respect that you’ve managed to keep a healthy adult relationship. Heck it makes me believe that it can happen to me someday in the future as well. I’m just really, really, disappointed in you for forsaking ALL of who you are / choosing to be less of yourself, in order to be with this woman.
I believe in this ONE truth: It is the male’s role to set boundaries in relationships.
Women, being who they are, naturally are inclined to test a man’s boundaries. It’s in the way they are made up, inherent in their DNA, physically and emotionally. Do not fault women for being just the way God made them. It’s you, as a man, that is failing in the relationship, and thus resulting in the failure of the relationship!
Here’s the age-old question…….Why do women test men?
Because they want to know that the man they’re currently with is THE One. So be a man for god’s sakes and stand up to their tests! Grow some balls and realize that hey….if it doesn’t feel right to you, then say so. Set some boundaries. Make some rules. Put out some limits to accepted behaviour. NOT to be authoritarian / Hitler’s-second coming or anything, but to create an equilibrium in the relationship. She WANTS to trust you wholeheartedly. She WANTS to feel safe with your presence. She WANTS to feel confident in your masculinity. Hence the constant prodding, poking, & testing in every shape, form, and threat. So my dear, dear, cuckolded men…..Be a MAN’s MAN and grow some balls willya!
Once a woman knows a man’s boundaries, and they know that if they still resort to go beyond those boundaries they’d get into trouble with you (like big time!); they’d appreciate you for it. Once a woman, realize that their men have enough balls to be a man and stand up to them; then they can totally and ultimately willingly 100% trust the man.
They’d realize that this man not only doesn’t put up with their sh1t, but has the will to do something about it, if they ever the cross the line. (And for those readers with overactive imaginations, NO, I do not advocate violence towards women or being extra emo by giving them the silent treatment. That’s just stupid. There are other more pleasurable ways to mete out “punishment” for being naughty. If you know what I mean. ;p)
After all….isn’t that what all healthy relationships between two independent, well-adjusted adults, really based on? (Get your mind out of the gutter. I did not mean “pleasurable punishment for being naughty”. I meant….)
Trust.
Reader's opinions on a self-adressed, self-stamped postcard appreciated.
A weekly column in which NiK! takes the stand to rant/rave about anything & everything that's going wrONg in KL right now from a male-chauvinistic pig's point-of-view. Highly recommended therapy by the Malaysian Royal Faculty of Psychotherapy.
Just got back from a talk cock session with some of me investment banker mates.
After the usual how-do-you-do’s, stock market bullshit, and filling our guts full with dine and drink; we got around to talking cock as usual. From wide-ranging topics as how-was-your-Christmas/New Year’s celebrations to who’s going out with who currently (or to put it more bluntly, who’s fcuking who); we arrived to a topic which is just downright gut-wrenchingly sorrowful to my manly man heart:
Modern KL men being cuckolded by their current woman in their life.
What’s up with the modern KL men these days lah???
Over the course of Nescafe ais and smokes, I heard recounting of tales so sorrowful, that I can’t help but feel sorry for these modern males being controlled by their ever-so-possessive significant other. From stories of being publicly berated over nothing (well, these women would say they “imagined” there was something going on of course) , to shouting matches that would shrink the balls of any grown men, to dirty deceitful tricks of masquerading as an anonymous SMS admirer (just to see if her husband was faithful), or even checking up on their men via reading e-mails / hand phone txt message archives.
Why do these few modern KL women bring themselves down to this level anyway?
And why do their men ALLOW themselves to be treated so badly in the first place??
C’monlah sayang…..this is the millennium-lah. Do you realize there’s MORE women in the world right now than there are men? (I reckon most women realize this tidbit of info more then men, hence the controlling streak in a few of them). YET your men still decides to stay by your side willingly. Not because he hasn’t found a better substitute yet. But because he must well and truly love you for who you are. Therefore why treat these honest/player-turned-reformed men so badly?
I guess the irony of it all is that ALL of the guys we were talking about during our talk cock session aren’t necessarily socially-inept. Nor physically challenged in the looks-department either. Most of them are in fact “ex-playas/ladykillers/heartbreakers”, and have been known to break a few hearts or cause a scandal or two in the past: whereupon just a mention of their names in KL clubland would have inspired awe in men who dream to be them, or hate/censure from women who’ve been “played” in the past or have heard of stories from friend of a friend who’s had it happen to them.
Wake up and smell the kopi-lah, oh-ex-player-turned-reformed males!!!
You don’t have to take this kinda sh1t lying down. And it’s not as if you LACK the skills to find a better mate in the first place?! You used to be the man’s man in the oh-not-so-distant past! It’s not that I disapprove of your current choice of partner or hate her in anyway. Or jealous of your newfound happiness in any way (hence the less time you spend with us doing guy things). Really I’m not. I’m happy that your life is more stable now with a dedicated woman in your life. I respect that you’ve managed to keep a healthy adult relationship. Heck it makes me believe that it can happen to me someday in the future as well. I’m just really, really, disappointed in you for forsaking ALL of who you are / choosing to be less of yourself, in order to be with this woman.
I believe in this ONE truth: It is the male’s role to set boundaries in relationships.
Women, being who they are, naturally are inclined to test a man’s boundaries. It’s in the way they are made up, inherent in their DNA, physically and emotionally. Do not fault women for being just the way God made them. It’s you, as a man, that is failing in the relationship, and thus resulting in the failure of the relationship!
Here’s the age-old question…….Why do women test men?
Because they want to know that the man they’re currently with is THE One. So be a man for god’s sakes and stand up to their tests! Grow some balls and realize that hey….if it doesn’t feel right to you, then say so. Set some boundaries. Make some rules. Put out some limits to accepted behaviour. NOT to be authoritarian / Hitler’s-second coming or anything, but to create an equilibrium in the relationship. She WANTS to trust you wholeheartedly. She WANTS to feel safe with your presence. She WANTS to feel confident in your masculinity. Hence the constant prodding, poking, & testing in every shape, form, and threat. So my dear, dear, cuckolded men…..Be a MAN’s MAN and grow some balls willya!
Once a woman knows a man’s boundaries, and they know that if they still resort to go beyond those boundaries they’d get into trouble with you (like big time!); they’d appreciate you for it. Once a woman, realize that their men have enough balls to be a man and stand up to them; then they can totally and ultimately willingly 100% trust the man.
They’d realize that this man not only doesn’t put up with their sh1t, but has the will to do something about it, if they ever the cross the line. (And for those readers with overactive imaginations, NO, I do not advocate violence towards women or being extra emo by giving them the silent treatment. That’s just stupid. There are other more pleasurable ways to mete out “punishment” for being naughty. If you know what I mean. ;p)
After all….isn’t that what all healthy relationships between two independent, well-adjusted adults, really based on? (Get your mind out of the gutter. I did not mean “pleasurable punishment for being naughty”. I meant….)
Trust.
Reader's opinions on a self-adressed, self-stamped postcard appreciated.
posted by NiK! at
2:17 AM
