Where To Pick Up Women
By Jackson Morris (Copyright © 2005, Seduction Insider.)
If you are looking for the next big pick up joint to meet ladies (or gentlemen, for our female readers) then set your alarm clock, make a list and grab some detergent. The latter three components will actually be places you will go to meet women. This is an excellent list, and it is no secret to the rest of the world. So if you want to save money, get your chores done and still meet gals, this is the list.
SET YOU'RE ALARM CLOCK
Coffee shops, you guessed it, are the "bars" of today. There are so many coffee franchises and privately owned cafés that it is virtually impossible to not pass one daily. You don't even have to drink coffee to enjoy the natural social setting it provides. The first thing you have in common with people you meet there is schedule. Unless you have a random job or work from home, most people go to the same coffee shop around the same time everyday. If you have a little flexibility go to a new coffee shop for a week but don't show up at the exact same time each day, you'll start to see the regulars.
Three things make the coffee shop prime ground; everyone is sober, it is bright daylight, and people are dressed for work with no friends around. The last fact is so important to meeting women. Wait until they are alone. A woman surrounded by friends is a woman surrounded by opinions. You have a much better chance at getting a woman's attention if you are not competing for attention with either her friends or coworkers. Broad daylight is great because it evens the playing field visually and physically. If you're both in line you can see her shape, how tall she is, how she walks etc. As I see a woman approaching or leaving the coffee shop, I call this the "runway shot". Stay tuned, I will tell you a couple of great ways to approach her with only a few moments to make your move in Central Perk.
MAKE A LIST
Let's all go to the grocery store. Now I will assume for a minute that not everyone reading this lives in bustling metropolis where there are more than three major grocery outlets near their home. If you have only one Piggly-Wiggly or Kroger within a few miles, that is okay, because that means all the girls including the married ones have to go there too.
Much like the king of the jungle, the best time to go hunting is when feeding is best. The coffee shop is breakfast time, and the grocery store is dinner time. Most single women go to the grocery store after work during the week. There is certainly a contingent that goes on the weekend, but we have better things to do than be in a store on a nice Saturday afternoon. Besides you will be doing laundry shortly anyway.
While shopping take your time and use a shopping cart. She can see everything in your cart and figure out if you're single too. If you have diapers and tampons in the basket, you're probably not a good catch. If you have veggies, beer and a copy of Men's Health, she can figure it out. I have personally found that if you can shop like the French, buying your meals each day, your ratio goes up considerably. That sounds like a lot of shopping, but think about it. If you shop daily, you will throw away less food, eat healthier and increase your exposure. Many of the same principles apply; you're both sober (hopefully), you're in a well lit arena with no friends/colleagues present. Like the cafés, you can see how women are dressed and if they have a wedding ring on.
*Best time to grocery shop; any weekend evening. If a woman is shopping for groceries on a Friday or Saturday night, she probably does not have a boyfriend or a date.
GRAB SOME DETERGENT
While grocery shopping on one of your trips make sure you pick up some detergent to do your laundry. If you really, really want to get your laundry done and not meet women then take your laundry in Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday morning or afternoon. This is statistically the least congested time at the public Laundromats. Places vary by region, but if you live in a singles rich community then the best time to go is Thursday night (see above), or either a Saturday or Sunday afternoon. You will both be stuck in the low budget laundry labyrinth for at least an hour to check each other out and probably not at your best dressed for either of you (bonus). You can see what she likes to read, or if she is a cell phone gossiper, or if she just watches whatever is on the complimentary TV set.
I suggest showing up wearing something "cool", if you look better than she does, how could she not be flattered that you chose to hit on her? It shows you take pride in your appearance even when you're out of clean boxers. Bring a book or magazine and avoid your cell phone in front of her. You don't want to be the cell phone pagan poser.
WHO WHAT WHERE
Now you know "where" to find the "who", you merely need the "what". Remember, in all three of these situations, you're both sober and alone in a well lit environment, this means even ground. So it is time to step up and be a man because she expects that, and that is your job.
At the coffee shop, if you see a gal often and you exchanged glances and smiles and you feel the time is right to make the move, be bold about it. Be patient also, try to get in line one morning a few people ahead of her. When you buy your coffee, buy her cup too. Most places know what everyone drinks, if not just give the guy five bucks and tell him to keep the change from her drink, he will be glad to do it. Tell him not to tell her until you're out of line. This will increase the opportunity for her to thank you outside, and she will want to. Whether you buy the coffee or just say, "Hello". The closer is this, after you introduce yourself and ask her name, ask her to join you for coffee tomorrow. She already drinks it and she is on that schedule. You just made the most convenient date you could for her. Again, your best bet to do this is only after you've both been exchanging glances and possibly casual remarks over a period of days.
At the grocery store, if you really want to make a great move, and you're sure who you want to hit on, buy a single flower (while you still have shopping to do), go up to the girl and say, "Hi my name is_______. I think you're a doll. I still have shopping to do, but this flower is for you. Maybe while you're shopping, you'll consider me making or taking you to dinner." The fact that you would still be strolling through the store will drive her crazy with intrigue. (No it doesn't...this one move reeks of desperation...please ignore the writer. --NiK) Women love mystery, chivalry and confidence. This one move has all three, but to work it really, really needs the confidence. When it is time to close, ask her three things; what kind of food don't you eat? What is your phone number? What is the best time to call? You are done.
At the Laundromat, do not approach her while she is loading or unloading the machines, this is intrusive. Wait till she sits down or goes outside or basically looks bored waiting for the cycle's end. If she is a mess, tell her she looks great, if she looks great and has perfume that you can smell, tell her she smells nice. Say, "hello" and make the conversation short, remember you're both trapped there for a while so don't overstay your welcome. She probably lives in the vicinity of the Laundromat, so suggest that you two meet at a venue nearby that she would be familiar (comfortable) with.
*At the Laundromat I suggest writing your number down on a piece of paper before you approach her. When it goes well, tell her that you have done so to make it convenient for her. A girl that really wants to go out with you will call or tell you right then that she wants you to call her first, thus giving her number in return. (Again, kinda reeks of desperation. Just relax and let the conversation flow naturally, don't pre-prepare your number or anything. Let it be natural and give/write down your number ONLY when asked-lah--NiK)
We covered breakfast, dinner, lunch and laundry for the week's schedule. Multiple responsibilities in your everyday life are not absent of opportunity. These are things and places you are already incorporating in your everyday life. Now the next time you need a loaf of bread or a caffeine fix or you just need some clean jeans, remember that; the girls always do.
If you are looking for the next big pick up joint to meet ladies (or gentlemen, for our female readers) then set your alarm clock, make a list and grab some detergent. The latter three components will actually be places you will go to meet women. This is an excellent list, and it is no secret to the rest of the world. So if you want to save money, get your chores done and still meet gals, this is the list.
SET YOU'RE ALARM CLOCK
Coffee shops, you guessed it, are the "bars" of today. There are so many coffee franchises and privately owned cafés that it is virtually impossible to not pass one daily. You don't even have to drink coffee to enjoy the natural social setting it provides. The first thing you have in common with people you meet there is schedule. Unless you have a random job or work from home, most people go to the same coffee shop around the same time everyday. If you have a little flexibility go to a new coffee shop for a week but don't show up at the exact same time each day, you'll start to see the regulars.
Three things make the coffee shop prime ground; everyone is sober, it is bright daylight, and people are dressed for work with no friends around. The last fact is so important to meeting women. Wait until they are alone. A woman surrounded by friends is a woman surrounded by opinions. You have a much better chance at getting a woman's attention if you are not competing for attention with either her friends or coworkers. Broad daylight is great because it evens the playing field visually and physically. If you're both in line you can see her shape, how tall she is, how she walks etc. As I see a woman approaching or leaving the coffee shop, I call this the "runway shot". Stay tuned, I will tell you a couple of great ways to approach her with only a few moments to make your move in Central Perk.
MAKE A LIST
Let's all go to the grocery store. Now I will assume for a minute that not everyone reading this lives in bustling metropolis where there are more than three major grocery outlets near their home. If you have only one Piggly-Wiggly or Kroger within a few miles, that is okay, because that means all the girls including the married ones have to go there too.
Much like the king of the jungle, the best time to go hunting is when feeding is best. The coffee shop is breakfast time, and the grocery store is dinner time. Most single women go to the grocery store after work during the week. There is certainly a contingent that goes on the weekend, but we have better things to do than be in a store on a nice Saturday afternoon. Besides you will be doing laundry shortly anyway.
While shopping take your time and use a shopping cart. She can see everything in your cart and figure out if you're single too. If you have diapers and tampons in the basket, you're probably not a good catch. If you have veggies, beer and a copy of Men's Health, she can figure it out. I have personally found that if you can shop like the French, buying your meals each day, your ratio goes up considerably. That sounds like a lot of shopping, but think about it. If you shop daily, you will throw away less food, eat healthier and increase your exposure. Many of the same principles apply; you're both sober (hopefully), you're in a well lit arena with no friends/colleagues present. Like the cafés, you can see how women are dressed and if they have a wedding ring on.
*Best time to grocery shop; any weekend evening. If a woman is shopping for groceries on a Friday or Saturday night, she probably does not have a boyfriend or a date.
GRAB SOME DETERGENT
While grocery shopping on one of your trips make sure you pick up some detergent to do your laundry. If you really, really want to get your laundry done and not meet women then take your laundry in Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday morning or afternoon. This is statistically the least congested time at the public Laundromats. Places vary by region, but if you live in a singles rich community then the best time to go is Thursday night (see above), or either a Saturday or Sunday afternoon. You will both be stuck in the low budget laundry labyrinth for at least an hour to check each other out and probably not at your best dressed for either of you (bonus). You can see what she likes to read, or if she is a cell phone gossiper, or if she just watches whatever is on the complimentary TV set.
I suggest showing up wearing something "cool", if you look better than she does, how could she not be flattered that you chose to hit on her? It shows you take pride in your appearance even when you're out of clean boxers. Bring a book or magazine and avoid your cell phone in front of her. You don't want to be the cell phone pagan poser.
WHO WHAT WHERE
Now you know "where" to find the "who", you merely need the "what". Remember, in all three of these situations, you're both sober and alone in a well lit environment, this means even ground. So it is time to step up and be a man because she expects that, and that is your job.
At the coffee shop, if you see a gal often and you exchanged glances and smiles and you feel the time is right to make the move, be bold about it. Be patient also, try to get in line one morning a few people ahead of her. When you buy your coffee, buy her cup too. Most places know what everyone drinks, if not just give the guy five bucks and tell him to keep the change from her drink, he will be glad to do it. Tell him not to tell her until you're out of line. This will increase the opportunity for her to thank you outside, and she will want to. Whether you buy the coffee or just say, "Hello". The closer is this, after you introduce yourself and ask her name, ask her to join you for coffee tomorrow. She already drinks it and she is on that schedule. You just made the most convenient date you could for her. Again, your best bet to do this is only after you've both been exchanging glances and possibly casual remarks over a period of days.
At the grocery store, if you really want to make a great move, and you're sure who you want to hit on, buy a single flower (while you still have shopping to do), go up to the girl and say, "Hi my name is_______. I think you're a doll. I still have shopping to do, but this flower is for you. Maybe while you're shopping, you'll consider me making or taking you to dinner." The fact that you would still be strolling through the store will drive her crazy with intrigue. (No it doesn't...this one move reeks of desperation...please ignore the writer. --NiK) Women love mystery, chivalry and confidence. This one move has all three, but to work it really, really needs the confidence. When it is time to close, ask her three things; what kind of food don't you eat? What is your phone number? What is the best time to call? You are done.
At the Laundromat, do not approach her while she is loading or unloading the machines, this is intrusive. Wait till she sits down or goes outside or basically looks bored waiting for the cycle's end. If she is a mess, tell her she looks great, if she looks great and has perfume that you can smell, tell her she smells nice. Say, "hello" and make the conversation short, remember you're both trapped there for a while so don't overstay your welcome. She probably lives in the vicinity of the Laundromat, so suggest that you two meet at a venue nearby that she would be familiar (comfortable) with.
*At the Laundromat I suggest writing your number down on a piece of paper before you approach her. When it goes well, tell her that you have done so to make it convenient for her. A girl that really wants to go out with you will call or tell you right then that she wants you to call her first, thus giving her number in return. (Again, kinda reeks of desperation. Just relax and let the conversation flow naturally, don't pre-prepare your number or anything. Let it be natural and give/write down your number ONLY when asked-lah--NiK)
We covered breakfast, dinner, lunch and laundry for the week's schedule. Multiple responsibilities in your everyday life are not absent of opportunity. These are things and places you are already incorporating in your everyday life. Now the next time you need a loaf of bread or a caffeine fix or you just need some clean jeans, remember that; the girls always do.
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