On Charisma : The Natural Aphrodisiac
Originally published as "The 'Sweet Science' of Charisma"
By Ray Jensen
Copyright © 2005, Seduction Insider.
Introduction:
Want to attract women with the same level of ease as the biggest movie stars and rockstars that seem to have this 'natural' gift of charisma? Why is charisma so powerful, and how have ordinary looking people (even 'ugly people') achieved such extraordinary sexual desire from the general population?
Learn the psychological principles of charisma and you can literally have the world's most gorgeous women eating out of your hand... Just ask Detroit rocker Kid Rock. Want a second opinion from someone who until a short time ago was completely unknown?
Then ask Kevin Federline how he reeled in Britney Spears...
If there's a sweet science to boxing, could there be a sweet science to charisma?
Ask a handful of amateur boxers to explain the 'sweet science' of boxing, and you're going to get a number of different replies, most kind of vague and unsure, but all of these amateurs well agree that there's something 'there', some kind of science that they're still trying to get down.
Like Amateur Boxers, Most People Don't Understand the 'Sweet Science' of Charisma, But They Agree There's Something 'There'
Ask a handful of champion boxers to explain the 'sweet science' of boxing, and you're going to get the same answer from all of them. Chin down, hands up, circle left, circle right, step in the bucket, throw combinations, jab, body punch, feint... Your foot work needs to be awesome, always keeping you balanced so you can throw any combo at any time, from anywhere in the ring. Develop fast hands... Top boxing trainers could go on and on about this for hours...
Ask top boxing trainers how they developed these skills and what specifically their fighters do in training, and they're not going to tell you. They don't want their training methods (secrets) getting out.
Charismatic 'Players' and 'Ladies men' Don't Want To Reveal Their Secrets Either
Performers in show business are the same way. These performers work on their game, some starting at an early age, until they are good enough to finally break into the scene with a small role in a B movie (some do get lucky from the get go, but that's rare). They keep rehearsing for auditions, and keep getting better. Suddenly you've got a George Clooney who evolved from a supporting character (grease mechanic) on Roseanne in the later 80's, to international movie star, as we know him now..
Like any 'true player' who knows how to attract choice women, actors work hard to develop charisma, so they can attract an audience... How to look good on camera, how to command attention, how to talk and use voice inflection, silent pauses, subtle gestures, how to be so bold and entertaining people can't turn the channel because they are so captivated by the actor's CHARISMA.
Can Charisma Be Learned?
For those of you who think that charisma can't be learned, you might want to take another look, and I'll cite some specific people. Donald Trump is really charismatic (and yet is well known for his sailor's mouth when he loses his temper) and so is Tommy Lee, a trash talking rockstar that has slept with two of the hottest women in modern day Hollywood (Pamela Anderson and Heather Locklear, and more than likely quite a few more than that, including a number of Hugh Hefner's Playboy Bunnies at the Playboy Mansion).
Now, to an outside observer Donald Trump and Tommy Lee are two completely different people. Regarding each one's charisma, they just seem to have different styles which is another point that makes charisma so important. It can work for just about anyone who takes the time to learn it, much like an actor or martial artist.
The Ultimate Rocket Scientist 'Nerd' - Married, Respected, And Praised By The World - Enter Stephen Hawking
Here's another example of charisma where you'd not expect to find it -- Stephen Hawking, the permanently wheel chaired physicist who speaks with an artificial electronic voice because of Motor Neurone Disease. The ultimate rocket scientist 'nerd' in a wheel chair, he can't even talk or use the bathroom without assistance, and yet millions hang on his every word and lavish him with accolades, respect, and praise. And yes, he's married.
Charisma can manifest itself for any person. Part of learning charisma is determining how to make it manifest for you. But you need to learn the psychology behind charisma first, to figure that out.
Now, by all historical accounts, Hitler was charismatic. He was so charismatic that he enchanted the small country of Germany into following him in a pursuit of world domination.
Tupac Shakur
In my experience, charisma can be developed by anyone who believes in it and wants it bad enough. Hollywood and the music business are excellent examples. Just look at Tupac Shakur, the deceased rapper. If you look at an early Tupac, just like today's biggest Hollywood movie stars, many were far from charismatic. But with careful training by stage directors and their cohorts (stage coaches, voice coaches, modeling coaches, etc), these celebrities became extremely charismatic. Also, these celebrities became charismatic by carefully reading other people. When people reacted one way to a speech or musical performance, these celebrities made a mental note of what action was done differently to get such a positive response, and then repeated that action even stronger in the next performance. What happened? A bigger reaction from the people. And it just went on from there.
There was a time when charisma only came 'naturally' to a select few, but more than likely (rather than a 'natural' power or gift from the gods) it was a direct result of psychological circumstances regarding the charismatic individual's upbringing.
Nowadays, we know better and we have the information that can teach us (any of us) how to harness the power of charisma and become a truly unstoppable force, whether it's show business, sports, music, or the movies, and in the world of seduction, learning charisma means making yourself really attractive -- make that extremely, extremely attractive -- to the opposite sex.
Give A P.U.A. (Pick Up Artist, Speed Seducer, Hypnotist, etc.) Charisma And His Failing Neg Hits Will Suddenly Seem To Work Magic
That's where charisma blows the neg hitting pua's out of the water. Now give a PUA charisma, and suddenly his neg hits will seem to work magic where before he developed charisma, the neg hits didn't work at all. Go figure.
There's an old saying, and it's what do women want? (Remember that from the newsletter?) Well, like everyone else, they want charisma, they want to be around people with charisma... Because in such a mundane existence of everyday life, anything charismatic almost seems magical (unless of course you understand charisma) and the big seduction secret many are starting to discover, is that anyone can develop charisma for themselves.
How Does Charisma Work?
Keep reading and discover how actors like Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt have seduced the population...
By Ray Jensen
Copyright © 2005, Seduction Insider.
Introduction:
Want to attract women with the same level of ease as the biggest movie stars and rockstars that seem to have this 'natural' gift of charisma? Why is charisma so powerful, and how have ordinary looking people (even 'ugly people') achieved such extraordinary sexual desire from the general population?
Learn the psychological principles of charisma and you can literally have the world's most gorgeous women eating out of your hand... Just ask Detroit rocker Kid Rock. Want a second opinion from someone who until a short time ago was completely unknown?
Then ask Kevin Federline how he reeled in Britney Spears...
If there's a sweet science to boxing, could there be a sweet science to charisma?
Ask a handful of amateur boxers to explain the 'sweet science' of boxing, and you're going to get a number of different replies, most kind of vague and unsure, but all of these amateurs well agree that there's something 'there', some kind of science that they're still trying to get down.
Like Amateur Boxers, Most People Don't Understand the 'Sweet Science' of Charisma, But They Agree There's Something 'There'
Ask a handful of champion boxers to explain the 'sweet science' of boxing, and you're going to get the same answer from all of them. Chin down, hands up, circle left, circle right, step in the bucket, throw combinations, jab, body punch, feint... Your foot work needs to be awesome, always keeping you balanced so you can throw any combo at any time, from anywhere in the ring. Develop fast hands... Top boxing trainers could go on and on about this for hours...
Ask top boxing trainers how they developed these skills and what specifically their fighters do in training, and they're not going to tell you. They don't want their training methods (secrets) getting out.
Charismatic 'Players' and 'Ladies men' Don't Want To Reveal Their Secrets Either
Performers in show business are the same way. These performers work on their game, some starting at an early age, until they are good enough to finally break into the scene with a small role in a B movie (some do get lucky from the get go, but that's rare). They keep rehearsing for auditions, and keep getting better. Suddenly you've got a George Clooney who evolved from a supporting character (grease mechanic) on Roseanne in the later 80's, to international movie star, as we know him now..
Like any 'true player' who knows how to attract choice women, actors work hard to develop charisma, so they can attract an audience... How to look good on camera, how to command attention, how to talk and use voice inflection, silent pauses, subtle gestures, how to be so bold and entertaining people can't turn the channel because they are so captivated by the actor's CHARISMA.
Can Charisma Be Learned?
Discussion board post in the Seduction Insider Forum Subject: Charisma can't be learnt!--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Charisma was originally a Greek word meaning gift or power.
You can't learn a gift or power. It is something you are born with. Personality and presence on the other hand, can be improved through certain techniques.Real charisma comes out when someone for example acts totally stupid, yet people are still totally rapt in that person. It is indescribable, but you'll know it when you see someone truly charismatic, not just confident.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
For those of you who think that charisma can't be learned, you might want to take another look, and I'll cite some specific people. Donald Trump is really charismatic (and yet is well known for his sailor's mouth when he loses his temper) and so is Tommy Lee, a trash talking rockstar that has slept with two of the hottest women in modern day Hollywood (Pamela Anderson and Heather Locklear, and more than likely quite a few more than that, including a number of Hugh Hefner's Playboy Bunnies at the Playboy Mansion).
Now, to an outside observer Donald Trump and Tommy Lee are two completely different people. Regarding each one's charisma, they just seem to have different styles which is another point that makes charisma so important. It can work for just about anyone who takes the time to learn it, much like an actor or martial artist.
The Ultimate Rocket Scientist 'Nerd' - Married, Respected, And Praised By The World - Enter Stephen Hawking
Here's another example of charisma where you'd not expect to find it -- Stephen Hawking, the permanently wheel chaired physicist who speaks with an artificial electronic voice because of Motor Neurone Disease. The ultimate rocket scientist 'nerd' in a wheel chair, he can't even talk or use the bathroom without assistance, and yet millions hang on his every word and lavish him with accolades, respect, and praise. And yes, he's married.
Charisma can manifest itself for any person. Part of learning charisma is determining how to make it manifest for you. But you need to learn the psychology behind charisma first, to figure that out.
Now, by all historical accounts, Hitler was charismatic. He was so charismatic that he enchanted the small country of Germany into following him in a pursuit of world domination.
Tupac Shakur
In my experience, charisma can be developed by anyone who believes in it and wants it bad enough. Hollywood and the music business are excellent examples. Just look at Tupac Shakur, the deceased rapper. If you look at an early Tupac, just like today's biggest Hollywood movie stars, many were far from charismatic. But with careful training by stage directors and their cohorts (stage coaches, voice coaches, modeling coaches, etc), these celebrities became extremely charismatic. Also, these celebrities became charismatic by carefully reading other people. When people reacted one way to a speech or musical performance, these celebrities made a mental note of what action was done differently to get such a positive response, and then repeated that action even stronger in the next performance. What happened? A bigger reaction from the people. And it just went on from there.
There was a time when charisma only came 'naturally' to a select few, but more than likely (rather than a 'natural' power or gift from the gods) it was a direct result of psychological circumstances regarding the charismatic individual's upbringing.
Nowadays, we know better and we have the information that can teach us (any of us) how to harness the power of charisma and become a truly unstoppable force, whether it's show business, sports, music, or the movies, and in the world of seduction, learning charisma means making yourself really attractive -- make that extremely, extremely attractive -- to the opposite sex.
Give A P.U.A. (Pick Up Artist, Speed Seducer, Hypnotist, etc.) Charisma And His Failing Neg Hits Will Suddenly Seem To Work Magic
That's where charisma blows the neg hitting pua's out of the water. Now give a PUA charisma, and suddenly his neg hits will seem to work magic where before he developed charisma, the neg hits didn't work at all. Go figure.
There's an old saying, and it's what do women want? (Remember that from the newsletter?) Well, like everyone else, they want charisma, they want to be around people with charisma... Because in such a mundane existence of everyday life, anything charismatic almost seems magical (unless of course you understand charisma) and the big seduction secret many are starting to discover, is that anyone can develop charisma for themselves.
How Does Charisma Work?
Keep reading and discover how actors like Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt have seduced the population...
Discussion board post by Jeff the Uber Geek Subject: Charisma
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Can a person develop charisma, or is it something out of reach for anyone not born with it? First off, who has charisma is very subjective. For example, there are folks I work with who absolutely love everything about G.W. Bush, including the way he carries himself, his attitude, his manner of speaking, etc... There's one Bush-lover at work who actually remarked during the election that "Bush is blessed with charisma."There are others who absolutely detest everything about him, including the very things that others would say make him charismatic. In any case the [discussion board post - charisma can't be learned] is flawed in that people can (and usually do) change.
I've seen remarkable transformations in some of the people in my life, and others who seem to stay the same. For one example, if you'd have asked me 15 years ago if my cousin had charisma I'd have laughed in your face. Now, however, he's become a very outgoing, socially conscious, extremely likeable person who I'd have to say is one of the most charismatic people I know. People are drawn to him now, whereas 15 years ago he was avoided by all except family. Did he learn it or he tap into an already inborn ability? He claims he learned it.
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Discussion board post in the Seduction Insider Forum Subject: charisma has been distorted
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------In fact, many people do have charisma, more or less than others. But you cant 'unlock' charisma, because it is either inherent in someone or not. That is simple to understand. You cant learn it, but you may have varying degrees of it, and you'll know if you do. All those techniques of 'learning' charisma are just things to help with our (now) degraded social skills. Society as we know it is to blame for that, but thats another subject. So I do agree you can make yourself more appealing in social situations. Now you say 'there was time' when charisma came 'naturally' to people, it still only does, and by that i mean it does or it doesn't. End of story.
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Perhaps you're right, these guys don't have 'true charisma'... maybe they know how to fake charisma and the whole thing is an act. Con artists can do this, and that's where we get the term 'confidence tricks'.
Actors can fake charisma as well. Tom Cruise, who played Maverick in Top Gun, was one of the most charismatic movie characters to ever come out of pop culture. He was extremely charismatic on the screen (sure, after careful training to seem charismatic), and yes in real life he was not as charismatic as his character.
Now, seducers and players can fake charisma as well to the point that it looks as though they're naturals... Maybe they are and maybe they're not. I think many of them have become naturals.
Does it matter though if they have true charisma or they have to fake it using heavy duty psychological 'charisma secrets' they've learned? When you watch these guys (and I've used these skills myself) they can literally use their charisma 'skills' to attract women like nothing you've ever witnessed. Actually, maybe you have witnessed it. If actors are not charismatic in real life, they sure do a great job of faking it on the screen. Just look at Val Kilmer, Top Gun's Iceman...
Charisma In The Nightclub
I know some guys that can do a better Iceman out in the nightclub, meaning these guys go into 'mode' and blast the room with charismatic 'skills' and get mad attention from choice women, for the sole purpose of meeting the hottest woman there and taking her home. They're the ultimate PUA's, but they're not anything like the PUA's you read about in Neil Strauss's "The Game" for example. They don't seem like PUA's, and they have a hundred times more success. Why? Because women are just drawn to these guys. They're not cocky/funny jackasses, if anything I'd describe them as super cool and super smooth. Sure they can be cocky. Sure they can be funny. But it's all with charisma. It's not the cocky/funny theory you may be reading about on 'Internet Dating Guru' websites.
(A blatant dig at Deangelo and his ideas here. At the end of the day, listen to both sides of the story, digest it all & take away the best ideas that works for you and make it fit your own style. Evolve & Adapt. --NiK!)
It's all about the charisma. That will never change. So the longer you don't learn it, the longer you're going to go home empty handed at closing time.
PUA's hit on women, trying to talk to fifty or so before they finally get one that will do the deed...
Guys with charisma don't have to hit on women -- women hit on them.
If I'm a no-name Kevin Federline I really need to turn on the charisma if I'm going to attract a woman like Britney Spears, a pop icon with world wide fame and a massive fortune to match. You should read how she describes him. Britney Spears is captivated by Kevin Federline, and while the rest of the world talks smack about him, just remember he's bagging one of the most popular female music performers ever.
And according to the media, she's taking care of him... Paying his bills, buying him gifts, financing his rap album.
That's charisma at work.
Kevin Federline is a walking Miller Beer commercial, he's living the high-life. A single out-of-work father with no significant background -- an average looking guy in serious need of a haircut -- he went from living like My Name Is Earl to my name is Mr. Britney Spears.
So, what's his secret? Yes, you already know, like so many others before him, and this is straight from the mouth of Britney Spears herself --
He knows how to use charisma to devastating effect on women.
In Summary:
· Anyone can learn charisma. That has been proven beyond a shadow of a doubt time and again. Don't fool yourself into thinking you can't learn it, or you can't become more charismatic. You can.
· That person you know who seems 'charismatic' -- well, he knows it too, and has made many mental notes (starting at a young age) as to what helps him project this image and he's built on that (at the same time, he keeps his mouth shut about it, which is part of the charisma, and it's called mystery)
· Someone who 'trains' himself in charisma can easily become much more 'charismatic' than someone who seems to take to it 'naturally'. Why? Because the person training in it knows exactly what he / she is doing, and WHY. You can excel very rapidly in charisma when you follow a program. Just ask any con man, entertainer, politician, or ladies man.
· Charisma is very different than charm. Charm is sometimes an element of charisma, but does not have the powerful psychological properties of persuasion and influence that charisma has. In politics and business, you don't call in the charmer to get things done. You call in the guy with the most charisma.
· Charisma can be used for both good and evil. Meaning 'Jerks' and 'Nice Guys' can wield it to the same effect on women. You've seen this for yourself.
· Women fantasize about men with charisma. Women will meet a charismatic man once and then day-dream about him for years, about love, passion, sex... control. But a man with charisma will never give women control... He'll always keep a psychological distance, and remain the prize in the interaction.
Doors open, women adore you, everything starts falling into place.
Ask any man on Hollywood's A-List.
;-)
Actors can fake charisma as well. Tom Cruise, who played Maverick in Top Gun, was one of the most charismatic movie characters to ever come out of pop culture. He was extremely charismatic on the screen (sure, after careful training to seem charismatic), and yes in real life he was not as charismatic as his character.
Now, seducers and players can fake charisma as well to the point that it looks as though they're naturals... Maybe they are and maybe they're not. I think many of them have become naturals.
Does it matter though if they have true charisma or they have to fake it using heavy duty psychological 'charisma secrets' they've learned? When you watch these guys (and I've used these skills myself) they can literally use their charisma 'skills' to attract women like nothing you've ever witnessed. Actually, maybe you have witnessed it. If actors are not charismatic in real life, they sure do a great job of faking it on the screen. Just look at Val Kilmer, Top Gun's Iceman...
Charisma In The Nightclub
I know some guys that can do a better Iceman out in the nightclub, meaning these guys go into 'mode' and blast the room with charismatic 'skills' and get mad attention from choice women, for the sole purpose of meeting the hottest woman there and taking her home. They're the ultimate PUA's, but they're not anything like the PUA's you read about in Neil Strauss's "The Game" for example. They don't seem like PUA's, and they have a hundred times more success. Why? Because women are just drawn to these guys. They're not cocky/funny jackasses, if anything I'd describe them as super cool and super smooth. Sure they can be cocky. Sure they can be funny. But it's all with charisma. It's not the cocky/funny theory you may be reading about on 'Internet Dating Guru' websites.
(A blatant dig at Deangelo and his ideas here. At the end of the day, listen to both sides of the story, digest it all & take away the best ideas that works for you and make it fit your own style. Evolve & Adapt. --NiK!)
It's all about the charisma. That will never change. So the longer you don't learn it, the longer you're going to go home empty handed at closing time.
PUA's hit on women, trying to talk to fifty or so before they finally get one that will do the deed...
Guys with charisma don't have to hit on women -- women hit on them.
If I'm a no-name Kevin Federline I really need to turn on the charisma if I'm going to attract a woman like Britney Spears, a pop icon with world wide fame and a massive fortune to match. You should read how she describes him. Britney Spears is captivated by Kevin Federline, and while the rest of the world talks smack about him, just remember he's bagging one of the most popular female music performers ever.
And according to the media, she's taking care of him... Paying his bills, buying him gifts, financing his rap album.
That's charisma at work.
Kevin Federline is a walking Miller Beer commercial, he's living the high-life. A single out-of-work father with no significant background -- an average looking guy in serious need of a haircut -- he went from living like My Name Is Earl to my name is Mr. Britney Spears.
So, what's his secret? Yes, you already know, like so many others before him, and this is straight from the mouth of Britney Spears herself --
He knows how to use charisma to devastating effect on women.
In Summary:
· Anyone can learn charisma. That has been proven beyond a shadow of a doubt time and again. Don't fool yourself into thinking you can't learn it, or you can't become more charismatic. You can.
· That person you know who seems 'charismatic' -- well, he knows it too, and has made many mental notes (starting at a young age) as to what helps him project this image and he's built on that (at the same time, he keeps his mouth shut about it, which is part of the charisma, and it's called mystery)
· Someone who 'trains' himself in charisma can easily become much more 'charismatic' than someone who seems to take to it 'naturally'. Why? Because the person training in it knows exactly what he / she is doing, and WHY. You can excel very rapidly in charisma when you follow a program. Just ask any con man, entertainer, politician, or ladies man.
· Charisma is very different than charm. Charm is sometimes an element of charisma, but does not have the powerful psychological properties of persuasion and influence that charisma has. In politics and business, you don't call in the charmer to get things done. You call in the guy with the most charisma.
· Charisma can be used for both good and evil. Meaning 'Jerks' and 'Nice Guys' can wield it to the same effect on women. You've seen this for yourself.
· Women fantasize about men with charisma. Women will meet a charismatic man once and then day-dream about him for years, about love, passion, sex... control. But a man with charisma will never give women control... He'll always keep a psychological distance, and remain the prize in the interaction.
Doors open, women adore you, everything starts falling into place.
Ask any man on Hollywood's A-List.
;-)
posted by NiK! at
3:15 PM
